We had the perfect marriage; a second marriage for both of us, and we had both learned so much from our prior experiences. And then one day, at nearly our 3 year wedding anniversary, my husband called and said "I have to tell you something. I have been flirting with (woman) and it's pretty bad." "Pretty bad" ended up meaning a physical sexual affair. This happened almost 10 years to the day of finding out my first husband was having an affair. I had been through this before; it ended my 1st marriage. In that split second, the first thought I had was pure anger- not at my husband but at God. I had already gone through this, and I didn't want to do it again.
My husband had a past of finding his self-worth in what a woman thought of him, not what God thought. My heart was destroyed. I truly thought of our marriage as close to perfect. He admitted his fault, even calling me the "perfect" wife. After lots of counseling for both of us (thank you Brian Hackney), we are at 18 months post-discovery, and we are both healing incredibly. We have both found our self-worth in what God thinks of us, not who others say or think we are, not what our spouse thinks of us I have gained so much trust back in him, and our marriage is better than before. We have both found our self-worth in what God thinks of us, not who others say or think we are or what our spouse thinks of us. Our marriage is stronger than ever; we both love and depend and trust the other, but we fully rely on God.